LIFE GOES ON By: Mcdonald Masse
Saturday, May 18, 2013
How to avoid relationship regrets
LIFE GOES ON By: Mcdonald Masse
Step Away from the Phone and Computer
Be More Attentive
Get Creative
Sex positions for conceiving baby girl
You've been dreaming of having a little girl ever since you were one yourself, but now that the time has finally arrived to start trying for a baby, you're wondering how the heck you increase your chances of conceiving a female.
Try girl on top
Hoping
for a girl? Then you might want to hop on top during sex! Although no
single position can guarantee your baby's gender 100 percent, Dr. Ava
Cadell, spokesperson for The Experience Channel and renowned love and
sex therapist, says that to have a girl, the woman should be on top so
that she can control the depth of penetration. Instead of "going deep',
your partner should ejaculate as close to the opening of your vagina as
possible. This will make it much more difficult for the male sperm to
reach your egg, since they have a shorter lifespan than female sperm do.
Do it missionary style
Turns
out, good old-fashioned sex could be your golden ticket to getting
pregnant with a girl. "Some believe that the best position to conceive a
girl is the missionary position,' notes Stacy Rybchin, founder of My
Secret Luxury. "Sperm with the X-chromosome (female sperm) travel slower
and can survive up to five days.' Because penetration isn't typically
as deep in this position, the sperm have a longer way to go, giving the
females a clear advantage.
Experiment with spooning
Another
common sex position believed to help couples conceive a female is
spooning. And what girl doesn't love to spoon, right!? This position,
like the others mentioned above, allows for shallow penetration only,
therefore upping the chances of a female sperm actually reaching and
fertilizing the egg first.
Time it just right
According
to experienced nurse and midwife Carmen Kosicek, RN, MSN, couples
trying for a girl should have intercourse more frequently, stopping two
to three days prior to ovulation. "The female sperm live longer, up to
72 hours,' she explains, "so the theory behind this would be that the
sperm left around when the egg is present would be the female sperm.'
Tailor your diet
Dr.
Cadell points to a study done by researchers at the University of
Exeter in England, which surveyed 740 first-time mothers, as well as a
study by Maastricht University in the Netherlands, to prove her point:
"Both studies confirmed that to boost the odds of conceiving a girl,
women should say yes to calcium and magnesium rich foods, such as
yogurt, tofu, milk, oatmeal, almonds, spinach, broccoli, beans, cashews
and oranges.'
Conversely, they should steer clear of foods high in salt and potassium, like potatoes, bacon, bread, shrimp and smoked salmon. The reason for this? In short, the diet is thought to enhance the acidity of a woman's body, and thus her uterine environment, making it easier for those female sperm to thrive and survive, of course.
Sex positions for conceiving baby boy
Whether you're absolutely dying for a baby boy your first time around or are just hoping to add a little guy to your brood of girls, experiment with these sex positions, as well as diet and timing tips, to help up your odds of conceiving a male.
Try it from behind
Also
known as "Doggie Style,' this position is highly recommended to couples
hoping to conceive a boy, says Stacy Rybchin, founder of My Secret
Luxury. Why? "Because it allows for deeper penetration, and
consequently, during ejaculation, the male sperm get deposited closer to
the cervix.' In general, male sperm are faster, but they don't live as
long as females do, so the less distance they have to travel, the
better!
Do it standing up
Apparently to
conceive a boy, all you gotta do is have sex standing up! This position,
like doggie style, enables deep penetration and is also thought to give
the faster male sperm an advantage seeing as sperm must swim against
gravity to get to the egg. While not backed by science, it's worth a
shot if you're hoping for a male.
Wait until you ovulate
Timing
is, of course, everything when it comes to making a baby. Believe it or
not though, the day you do the deed (and the days you don't too!) can
potentially influence the gender of your child. To increase your chances
of a boy, experienced nurse and midwife Carmen Kosicek, RN, MSN,
advises avoiding intercourse in the days (at least four or five) leading
up to ovulation. Then do it the day of, she directs. Since male sperm
are faster swimmers, the theory here is that'd they'd reach the egg
first before the females. "Now, the trick is figuring out exactly when
you ovulate!' Don't worry ladies there are kits for that.
Consume more calories
And
eat cereal for breakfast! "A study conducted by researchers at the
University of Exeter in the UK suggests that upping your calorie intake
by at least 400 calories per day and consuming cereal especially, along
with bananas, fish, vegetables and other high energy foods, can help
lead to conception of a boy,' reveals Dr. Ava Cadell, spokesperson for
The Experience Channel and renowned love and sex therapist. Interesting,
huh?
'Can I get him back without seeming desperate or needy?'
| as it was in the beginning,so shall it be ,the world will never change By: Mcdonald Masse |
If you're a woman who has tried to get your ex back, you've most likely taken the 'desperate times call for desperate measures' approach, causing you to do all kinds of unfortunate things, including the walk of shame and the drunk dial. These unflattering behaviors render you his doormat, and ultimately push him away.
I know how excruciating it is when you still love him after your relationship ends. I've been the desperate woman who has tried unsuccessfully to get (a couple of) my exe(s) back. What I remember most is feeling insecure during the process and embarrassed about some of the things I did. My wake-up call in 2007 changed me for the better.
In 2007, I experienced some big setbacks, including a breakup with a man I loved dearly. I was devastated, and deep inside sensed our relationship wasn't over. These setbacks helped me learn how to love myself. The more I loved myself, the less my desire to behave in desperate ways to get him back.
My approach wasn't about initiating and worrying whether or not he would come back. It was about responding and having an inner-knowing that he would come back because he wanted to, while at the same time knowing that I would be fine if he didn't.
This empowering, six-step approach led him back to me and made me his wife.
1. Don't disagree with why things ended: If he brings up the reasons why your relationship ended, don't disagree with him. Find the truth in what he's saying, acknowledge it and apologize for it. It's better to be happy and loved than to be right. Wanting to be right is your ego stepping in and overshadowing your soul's desire to be happy and loved.
2. Don't try to convince him of all the reasons why he should come back to you: Trying to convince your ex why he should come back to you pushes him further away. It reinforces why he's better off without you because you appear needy and desperate. Needy and desperate are traits that will kill any attraction he may have for you.
Men are drawn to women who are happy with themselves. So, be happy, live your life and let your radiant energy cause him to second guess why you're not together. Remember, you are a prize. You should never have to convince him to be with you.
3. Take responsibility for your role in the breakup: In every breakup you've experienced, you're the common denominator. Instead of blaming him for what's happened, look within and determine how you contributed to the demise of your relationship. For instance, if you've tended to question your exes because you have a hard time trusting them, you have trust issues. Do the inner work to learn how to trust yourself so that you become more trusting. If he comes back, this issue won't resurface and cause another breakup.
4. Let him come to you: A man places a higher value on getting what he has to work for. When you miss your ex, don't make it easy for him. Instead of calling him during a weak moment, call a supportive friend. The space created lets him miss you and wonder what you're doing. He will contact you because he wants to see you, wants a booty call (decline politely), misses you, etc. When he does, respond accordingly. Avoid having sex with him until the issues that led to the break up are resolved.
5. Put yourself first: Put yourself first and do what's best for you. When he comes to you, don't pick up where the relationship left off. At this point, he has more of an incentive to resolve the issues that led to the breakup because he wants you back. Now is the time to address and work through these issues. Don't let him convince you that the problem was yours. Even if the problem started with you, the way he responded or didn't respond made things worse.
Do the inner work to resolve these issues without letting him know you're doing the work. The reason you don't need to let him know is because he won't believe it until he experiences the changes. Just do the work and see how he responds. If he responds positively, you're moving in the right direction. If he continues responding in the way that contributed to your breakup, he's not the one for you.
6. Hold a clear and positive vision Be clear on how you want your relationship to be this time around. Then behave and act in ways that support your vision and make you feel good about yourself. Let things unfold naturally and stay open to the outcome. If you find yourself becoming obsessed with getting your ex back, relax and trust that things will work out for your greater good. If he doesn't come back, understand that there may be someone else who is better for you. Let God, the higher power, the Universe or whatever you believe in bring you the man you're supposed to be with.
Caveat: He is not worth getting back with if he uses you, is a freeloader, is verbally, physically and/or emotionally abusive towards you, influences you to do things that are immoral, unethical or illegal, has substance abuse problems, blames others and never takes responsibility for himself, cheats, lies or can't be trusted.
You will be fine. The benefits of this approach are immense. If he comes back, you'll have a more loving and fulfilling relationship. You'll have set a higher standard for how he loves and treats you. If he doesn't come back, you are a stronger and better person. You will attract a man who is better for you. In either case, you will have a more loving relationship with yourself.
Is your marriage sex-starved? Don't ignore it, set a sex schedule
The longer you're together, the more 'efficient' you'll be sexually and sex becomes business-like and brief
| TOMORROW BELONGS TO THOSE WHO PREPARE FOR IT TODAY. By: Mcdonald Masse |
When was the last time you 'did the deed'? Can't remember or don't want to and definitely don't want to talk about it? This is for you: six simple steps to get your mojo back!
Confront the problem
Tackle
anger issues: If there's lots of anger and resentment over sex on
either side, call a truce.Force yourselves to talk about what's going
on: You can't shut couples up talking about sex when it's going great,
then when you really need to talk - when problems hit - you're both
quieter than a three-year-old discovering their Mum's make-up stash.
Approach it as a couple problem that's no-one's fault: no-one's 'right' or 'wrong'. The person who wants sex more isn't 'sexier' or 'better'.The person who wants sex less isn't 'frigid' or the one with 'the problem'. If there's a desire mismatch, one of you feels rejected, the other feels pressured and hassled. It doesn't feel great on either side.
Set realistic aims together
Embrace
the dreaded 'C' word.compromise. The high desire person decides on the
least amount of sex per fortnight they'd be happy with. The low desire
person decides on the most often they'd be willing to do it. Then you
choose the number in the middle of the two. Talk about what you'd like
to do in the sex sessions: say what you most like and least like,
focusing more on the positives than negatives. Talk about when you did
have great sex. What made it work when it worked?
Don't expect it to be solved overnight. After the first honest chat, couples often feel so liberated, uplifted and relieved, it feels like everything is fixed already - just by talking! You've tackled the hardest part - admitting there's a problem - but there's still a little way to go before you start to see real results in the bedroom.
Set a sex schedule
Make
dates for sex, don't just wait for it to happen. Find the whole idea of
planning sex deeply off-putting? Do you expect to turn up to the best
restaurant in town without making a booking? No. Does it put you off
going once you've booked because you know it's going to happen? Quite
the opposite. So what's the problem with planning sex?
Plan for it just as you would any big night out. Just as you try out new restaurants, try out new sex styles, techniques and experiences.
Act on a mere flicker of lust
You
sort of wouldn't mind if you had sex? Don't just ponder the thought,
pounce on it - and do it as soon as you can! Studies show the more time
that passes between having an idea and following up on it, the more
likely you are to lose motivation. Think of your sex life as a bank
account: You need to make regular deposits to keep the balance healthy
Be the one to make the first move
Being
the one to suggest sex will make you feel instantly powerful and sexier
- especially if your partner is the one usually initiating. But make
sure the move isn't so subtle, they miss it. Have an agreed private code
that says 'Sex today/tonight?'. Put two different magnets on the fridge
and place yours high if you're up for it.
Change the way you have sex
The
longer you're together, the more 'efficient' you'll be sexually. Sex
becomes business-like and brief. You know each other's triggers and
buttons to push and press them accordingly. The easiest way is transform
your tired techniques is to buy a sex book packed with practical
techniques as a present for the two of you. Say it's to keep sex fresh,
rather than to liven things up. It's a subtle difference but an
important one: one implies curiosity, the other boredom.
Five worst sex positions ever
Has your whole sex life been a lie? Women rated common moves like doggy style, reverse cowgirl, and 69 as the worst sex positions.
Chances are, those sex staples have been in your arsenal since you bought your first condom. Men have long relied on standard moves like missionary because they're easy, efficient, and feel greatbut as it turns out, women have quietly been cursing them the whole time.
To pinpoint the source of female frustration, we consulted with top experts to uncover why your five favorite positions just aren't cutting itand the upgrades you must make to satisfy her sex drive.
Doggy Style
Why
she's not into it: Put simply, it's too painful. 'The issue here is you
may be ramming her cervix, which is why deep penetration is often more
harmful than hot,' says Sara Gottfried, M.D., OB/GYN, author of The
Hormone Cure. Plus, if you're fully removing yourself, then re-entering
her, it often hurts her chances at staying fully lubricated, Dr.
Gottfried explains.
Women in our survey also said doggy's not intimate enough. Even though rough sex can be awesome if you're both into it, most women are looking for more of a connection during sex, Dr. Gottfried says. While you may have a blast admiring her assets when she's on all fours, her view of the bed isn't nearly as stimulating.
How to fix it
To
prevent the bump and grind from getting painful, keep your thrusts
short and shallow, rather than deep and fast. Shallow thrusts will
stimulate the front third of her vagina, which is the most sensitive
part, says Rebecca Rosenblat, a sex therapist and the author of Seducing
Your Man.
Up the intimacy factor by running your hands through her hair, down her spine, and occasionally leaning forward to kiss and suck on her neck. And don't forget the clitoral stimulation, Dr. Gottfried advises. Just because you're focusing on her backside, doesn't mean you should neglect her most sensitive spots.
Woman on Top
Why
she isn't into it: One word: insecurity. According to our survey, a
majority of women feel more self-conscious when they're on top. Dr.
Gottfried says women often worry about what their stomachs or breasts
look like from where you're laying. And even though you think she looks
like a rock star, even the tiniest shred of doubt can put out her fire.
How to fix it
Switch
into a side-by-side position like 'The Spork.' Have her lie on her
back, and raise her right leg. Slot yourself between her legs at a
90-degree angle and ease inside her. This way, her legs will form the
tines of a spork utensil.
Reverse Cowgirl
Why
she's not into it: Because it's hard for her to climax like thatand not
everything fits when she's riding in reverse. 'Reverse cowgirl may seem
sexy and adventurous, but when you actually try to enter her, things
might not fit the way you think that they should,' says Jen Landa, M.D.,
Chief Medical Officer of BodyLogicMD and author of The Sex Drive
Solution for Women. It often boils down to the curvature of your penis
not coinciding with the angle of her vagina, Dr. Landa says.
Realistically, any time you bend your penis too far at the base, it's
not only uncomfortable for her, it becomes dangerous for you. In other
words, you can break your junk.
How to fix it
If
you're in it for the view, switch to doggy (with our upgrades, of
course). The fit's more practical, and you can help her reach orgasm,
says Dr. Landa.
But if you still want the naughtiness factor, put the doggy to bed. Do this: Stand up, have her bend forward, place her hands on a stable mirror, then enter her from behind. You'll still be able to manually stimulate her, but now you can both use the mirror to your advantage.
Missionary
Why she's not into
it: It doesn't hit the right spots. 'And if you're on the smaller end of
the spectrum, this position doesn't really accentuate your size,' Dr.
Landa says.
How to fix it
Try using the Coital
Alignment Technique (CAT)just don't call it that in bed. The position
is similar to missionary, except your body is farther up and to one
side. (So rather than being chest to chest, your chest is near her
shoulders.) Have her bend her legs about 45 degrees to tilt her hips up,
which causes the base of your shaft to maintain constant contact with
her clitoris.
Even though the name is a mouthful, the move is proven to work: Women who were unable to climax in regular missionary were 56 percent more likely to climax using CAT, according to a study from the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.
69
Why
she's not into it: She's, well, preoccupied. According to our survey
results, women say it's too difficult to focus on receiving pleasure
when they have to concentrate on giving it. And pleasure and reaching
climax is heavily determined by her mental state, Dr. Landa says. So it
becomes difficult to relax and enjoy your oral skills if she's trying to
take care of your needs at the same time.
How to fix it
If
you want her to get the most out of oral, you're better off taking
turns giving and receiving. Many women claim 69 feels anonymous to them,
because they want their partner to be able to look them in the eyes and
feel a connection, says Gottfried. So if you stick to giving first,
she's way more likely to enjoy herself.
Women live longer than men-their immune systems age more slowly
| If you give the devil your little finger,he's sure to grab your whole arm! By: Mcdonald Masse |
Women live longer than men partly because their immune systems age more slowly, a new study has revealed.
As their body defences weaken with the passing years, the increasing susceptibility of men to disease shortens their lives, it is claimed.
Life expectancy in the UK is 79 years for men and 82 for women, according to the World Health Organisation.
In Japan, where the research took place, the gap is wider. There, the average lifespan of men is the same as in the UK, but women live to 85.5.
The study involved examining blood samples from healthy volunteers with a wide range of ages.
Scientists tested the blood of 356 men and women aged between 20 and 90 and looked at levels of white blood cells and immune system signalling molecules called cytokines.
In both sexes, the number of white blood cells per person decreased with age, but closer study revealed striking differences between men and women.
The rate of decline of most T-cell and B-cell lymphocytes, two key elements of the immune system, was faster in men.
Similarly, men showed a more rapid age-related decline in the two cytokines, IL-6 and IL-10.
Two specific types of immune system cell that actively destroy foreign invaders, CD4 T-cells and natural killer (NK) cells, increased in number with age. In this case, the rate of increase was higher in women than in men.
NK cells are believed to be one of the body's first lines of defence against cancer.
The research, led by Professor Katsuiku Hirokawa, from Tokyo Medical and Dental University, appears in the online journal Immunity and Ageing.
The scientists wrote: 'Age-related changes in various immunological parameters differ between men and women. Our findings indicate that the slower rate of decline in these immunological parameters in women than in men is consistent with the fact that women live longer than do men.'
Immune system mechanisms not only protect the body from infection and cancer, but can cause disease when not properly regulated.
Inflammation is a potentially damaging immune system response that contributes to heart and artery disease and could play a role in dementia.
The cytokine IL-10 is an important regulator of inflammation, helping to put the brakes on the immune system to keep it under control.
Its faster decline in men suggests that as men age they might more rapidly be affected by inflammatory conditions.
Professor Hirokawa said: 'The process of ageing is different for men and women for many reasons. Women have more oestrogen than men which seems to protect them from cardiovascular disease until menopause. Sex hormones also affect the immune system, especially certain types of lymphocytes.
'Because people age at different rates, a person's immunological parameters could be used to provide an indication of their true biological age.'
Children brought up by two parents are more intelligent
Being with both parents in the earliest years of life leads to a child developing more brain cells
| LIVE YOUR LIFE TO LIVE! By: Mcdonald Masse |
Children who are brought up by two parents grow up to be cleverer than those raised by just one person, new research suggests.
Being with both parents in the earliest years of life leads to a child developing more brain cells, the scientists believe.
However, the benefits vary between the sexes.
Being brought up by both parents causes boys to have better memory and learning functions.
By contrast, it causes girls to develop improved motor co-ordination and sociability.
It is believed that babies with two parents tend to get more attention and more stability, and that they are less likely to suffer emotional distress in the first years of life.
This leads to greater brain cell production - for boys it is grey matter brain cells that develop and for girls it is white matter brain cells.
The researchers from the Hotchkiss Brain Institute (HBI) of Calgary University, in Canada, studied mice and experimented by creating one parent and two parent family groups.
They then measured the offspring's brain cell development from birth to adulthood.
Adult mice with the highest number of brain cells turned out to be those who had been brought up by two parents rather than one.
As babies they had received more attention and more nursing as both parents took turns to lick and tend to their youngsters, said HBI director, Dr Samuel Weiss.
As a result, the babies with two parents are less likely to suffer early life trauma which can have a massive impact on how their brains develop in later life, the research shows.
However, what did surprise the researchers is that female babies who grew up with both parents turned out to be good single mothers, as if good parenting was passed on.
Dr Weiss said: 'Our new work adds to a growing body of knowledge, which indicates that early, supportive experiences have long lasting, positive impact on adult brain function.
'Surprisingly, the advantages of dual parenting were also passed along when these two groups reproduced, even if their offspring were raised by one female.
'The advantages of dual parenting were thus passed along to the next generation.'
Although the experiment was conducted on mice, many of the same principles of how early life events can influence growing up are relevant to humans too, the report added.
The researchers said: 'In the mouse model, parenting and the environment directly impacted adult brain cell production.
'It is possible that similar effects could be seen in other mammals, such as humans.'
Why men do not respond to the sound of crying babies
Oblivious: Brain scans have shown that men's brains do not react in the same way as women to the sound of a distressed baby
| Things in the world are more round
than the things in the world been
round By: Mcdonad Masse |
A new study has discovered that women's brains are hard-wired to respond to a baby's cry, while men do not seem to react at all.
Research, carried out by National Institute of Child Health in the U.S., asked 18 men and women to let their minds wander.
During this time the scientists conducted brain scans.
A new study has discovered that women's brains are hard-wired to respond to a baby's cry, while men do not seem to react at all.
Research, carried out by National Institute of Child Health in the U.S., asked 18 men and women to let their minds wander.
During this time the scientists conducted brain scans.
'Determining whether these responses differ between men and women, by age, and by parental status, helps us understand instincts for caring for the very young,' study co-author Marc Bornsteinfrom the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development told Medical Daily.
Although brain activity patterns differed between men and women, there was no difference in the brain patterns between parents and non-parents.
The researchers also played the cries of infants who were later diagnosed with autism.
Interestingly, hearing these cries interrupted the mind wandering of both men and women.
A previous study has shown that the screams of infants who develop autism tend to be higher pitched than those of other babies and that the pauses between cries are shorter.
It has been long known that women's bodies react to the sound of babies after pregnancy.
Soon after birth, a woman's 'letdown reflex' the reflex that releases the milk produced by breasts needs time to adjust to the sensation of feeding.
Frequent breastfeeding will help the reflex become attuned to particular stimulation, but until then, many sensations such as hearing screams and even certain thoughts may trigger lactation (the release of milk from the breast)
Foods that strengthens your sperm
| A MAN WHO WANTS TO CARRY HIS BURDEN ON HIS HEAD MUST BE STRONG ENOUGH TO LIFT UP HIS WIFE. By: Mcdonald Masse |
Waiting to have kids? Make sure your diet's up to par. A healthy intake of micronutrientsincluding vitamin C, E, folate, and zinccan boost sperm DNA quality in older men, according to a study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility.
Researchers had 80 men ages 20 to 80 estimate their average daily vitamin intake, then took semen samples to analyze the men's DNA.
The results: The more antioxidants and micronutrients a guy's diet had, the smaller the risk for sperm with DNA damage, especially in older men. In fact, men ages 44 and older who ate the most vitamin C had 20 percent less damage compared to men of the same age who consumed very little vitamin C.
That's positive news for older men who still want to have kids, since you need healthy DNA for genetically normal children, says study author Andy Wyrobek, Ph.D., senior staff scientist with Berkeley Lab's Life Sciences Division.
Want to ensure stronger swimmers, no matter your age? Incorporate these three nutritional gold mines into your diet to keep your semen in tip-top shape. (And if you're still hungry for more sex-savvy foods and secrets, pick up a copy of The Men's Health Big Book of Sex for hundreds of ways to upgrade your sex life.)
Fatty Fish
Men
who eat more omega-3 fatty acids have higher-quality semen than those
who skimp on omega-3s, according to a study in Human Reproduction. And
even though the researchers say this may be merely a correlation,
omega-3s are still loaded with other sex-boosting benefits. The omega-3
fatty acids DHA and EPA found in fish help to raise dopamine levels in
the brain that trigger arousal, according to sexologist Yvonne K.
Fulbright, Ph.D. Your move? Add oily coldwater fish like salmon,
mackerel, sardines, and tuna to your weekly meal lineup.
Walnuts
Eating
just 75 grams of walnuts a dayroughly a handfulcan improve the quality
of your semen, says a study published in Biology of Reproduction.
Researchers monitored the diets of 117 healthy men, asking half to
incorporate 75 grams of walnuts into their diets. After 3 months, guys
who ate walnuts saw an improvement in the shape of their sperm, as well
as the movement and vitality of their swimmers. Why? Researchers believe
the alpha-linolenic acid (ALA)a natural plant source of omega-3in
walnuts may be behind the sperm's extra boost. (Walnuts aren't the only
convenient snack that will strengthen your sperm. Check out these 12
other Super Sex Foods.)
Oysters
Besides being
the ultimate aphrodisiac, the zinc in oysters can work wonders for your
semen. In a study in Fertility and Sterility, sub-fertile men who took
zinc sulfates daily saw a 74 percent increase in total normal sperm
count after 26 weeks, compared to men who were treated with placebos.
Your move: Pop six oysters a day to double the daily recommendation of
15 milligrams of zinc. Other good sources of zinc are shrimp, red meat,
pumpkin seeds, poultry and pork, eggs, and dairy products.
20 things to say to your daughter before she's grown
| Hot-headedness often begets unpardonable defeat. By: Mcdonald Masse |
I always wanted to have daughters -- and I got them. I love every minute of it, from the tea parties and pedicures to what we affectionately (mostly) call the "hair wars" in our house. But I'd be lying if I said it was easy.
From a very young age our girls are targeted with messed-up media messages (think "Thin is beautiful, and beautiful is everything, and if you want to be happy, you need these shoes!") and exposed to all manner of temptations, online and otherwise. As a parent who can shape who they'll become, there are many life lessons that I'd want to teach any child of mine. But there is also some specific advice for daughters. Here are 20 girl-centric things I want them to know.
1. Learn the word NO. Sure, I don't like it one bit when you say it to me, but in the big, scary world out there you will be faced with endless tough choices. From boys to beers to inappropriate Instagram photos, potential trouble will lurk everywhere you go. You know that little voice you have inside, the one that tells you something doesn't feel right? Listen to it. Respect it. And most importantly, use it to say NO. It won't be easy a lot of the time, but I assure you, you'll almost always be glad you did.
2. Spend more time worrying about how beautiful you are inside than outside: It's fine to take pride in your appearance and want to be pretty. But if how you look is all you care about, you'll pay for it down the road. Yes, you are beautiful -- magnificently, achingly so -- but never forget that you didn't do anything to create or even deserve that. True beauty comes from being kind and thoughtful and compassionate. If you're ugly on the inside, you're ugly. Period.
3. Stuff won't make you happy: Oh, in the moment -- when you're pining for that headband/skateboard/Fijit Friend/designer purse -- you will truly, madly, passionately believe that they will. But things break. We lose them. They run out. They go out of style. They become uncool (the worst!). Happiness comes from appreciating the things you do have, not acquiring more.
4. Some girls are mean girls: Be extremely careful when you choose your friends. At the risk of throwing our entire gender under the bus, girls can be nasty and petty and jealous and cruel. Some of them will lie to you or pretend to be your friend or stab you in the back, and it will hurt like hell every single time. If you're totally unprepared for it, it will crush you even more.
5. Girlfriends will save your life: Yes, girls can be awful, so when you find a loyal, true friend, hold onto her for dear life, and do your best to be loyal and true right back. Boys will come and go, but a good girlfriend will be your steady through the peaks, the valleys and everything in between.
6. Don't judge people (but know that you will be judged): It's a catch-22, kid: I've taught you not to assume things about people simply by the way they look or the clothes they wear; unfortunately the rest of the world won't always do the same. Remember that when you want to bare your belly or pierce your tongue or dye your hair blue. (This may not matter much to you now, but wait until you're trying to get a job or meeting your first boyfriend's -- or girlfriend's -- parents.)
7. Boobs are overrated: Until you have them, you're going to want them. When you get them, you'll obsess about them. Are they big enough? Too big? Is one bigger than the other? (Yes, it probably is. Every breast on the planet is different, even the two sharing the same bra. Accept it and get over it.) No matter how you feel about your boobs, remember that they're not called "private parts" for nothing. So do yourself (and me!) a favor and cover them up. Nothing you could ever do screams I NEED ATTENTION like putting your perky young rack on display.
8. Get to know your grandma: Sure you love your granny, but have you taken time to really talk to her? Grandma's had a lifetime of experience being a woman, and it would be a waste to not tap into her wisdom. Ask her about what it was like growing up, the first boy she liked, how she knew what she wanted to be when she grew up. It's sad but true: She won't be around forever, so make sure you get to know her while you still can.
9. High school is not real life: It feels like there's so much at stake, with cool girls you're desperate to befriend and boys you're crushing on so hard you can't imagine ever meeting anyone better. But trust me: Life gets so much bigger when you go to college and then out into the world. And what someone is like in high school is little indication of who they become as an adult. The popular kids? They might peak as a teenager while some of the kids who don't fit in go on to achieve great things. It's impossible to have that perspective when you're in it, but please trust me and believe these words when it seems like your world is ending.
10. Love yourself first: Not everyone is going to like you and that's okay. Women often are obsessed with getting approval from everyone, but here's the thing: It's impossible to please everyone. The only person who absolutely must like you is, well, you. As long as you can look at the chick in the mirror and know you're making the decisions that are right for her, even if they displease someone else, you can't go wrong.
11. It's okay to wait: The other kids are rounding the bases, while you're not even sure what the bases are. That feeling of overwhelmed discomfort with the whole thing is telling you you're not ready. You'll get there someday, and there's no reason to rush. Hardly anyone ever regrets taking things slow, while a lot of girls do have remorse over rushing.
12. Sex should be fun: You shouldn't be in any rush to have sex, but when you do feel totally ready to do the deed, remember it's supposed to be fun -- really fun. If your partner doesn't care about making you feel good, both emotionally and physically, or you don't know enough about your own body to lead him in the right direction, see #11.
13. Not every problem is the end of the world: Remember that book I used to read you, The Boy Who Cried Wolf? That lesson applies to pretty much everything you do for the rest of your life. If every dilemma or disappointment you face is a 10 on the Drama Scale, you won't get much sympathy from me (or anyone else). It will take you a while to develop full-fledged perspective; in the interim, play the "will this matter in five minutes/days/years?" game before you freak out about something that feels major in the moment.
14. Don't compare yourself to others: You may not want to hear this, but there will always be someone prettier, richer and more popular or talented or athletic or artistic than you are. Don't assume her life is better or happier than yours because of it. Life isn't a competition, it's a journey. You're here to work on being the best you can be.
15. It's only hair: Seriously. You will curl it and straighten it and pull it back and pin it up. You'll wish it were thicker or longer or wavier or straighter. You'll braid it and twist it and color it (please, not pink). You'll spend untold hours counting your split ends. And for what? It's hair. Life is too precious to waste so much time on the pursuit of mane perfection. Put a baseball cap on it, and go out and have some fun.
16. Being smart is cool: Sometimes you may feel as if you have to hide that you're smart. Listen closely to me when I tell you: You don't. Don't ever dumb yourself down because you think it'll make you seem cooler or to try to impress a guy. There may be a window of time when your peers genuinely think that brains are for dorks, but it's a very small window, I promise. If you choose to use your brain, I promise you those dingbats will be drooling over how cool and successful you are.
17. Don't lose yourself in a guy: The goal of dating is to find a guy you like just as he is and who likes you just as you are. Don't pretend to love wind-surfing or scary movies just because he does, or act like you don't love the clarinet because he thinks it's lame. There are plenty of boys out there who will love and admire every last quirky thing about you. Hold out for one of them.
18. Speak up. I'm not talking about complaining or boasting or trying to get your way... but if you have an opinion or you aren't being treated fairly or you see something happening that you know isn't okay, it's your right and your obligation to open your mouth. You may annoy some people when you do or even impress them. Either way, it's okay. The more often you stand your ground, the sooner it will become second nature.
19. You have power over boys: At some point, it will hit you: You are the reason he stumbles over his words and gets sweaty palms. It's a pretty heady feeling to realize you're in possession of feminine wiles, isn't it? But with great power comes great responsibility, so make sure you are always gentle and never cruel. After all, boys can have their hearts broken, too.
20. You'll hate me some days, but I'll always love you: I hope you know enough not to say it to my face, but I accept the fact that there will be moments you feel like you detest me. All daughters think their mothers just don't/couldn't possibly/will never ever get it at some point. But even if you hate me -- even if you tell me so -- I am still there for you. If you need a ride home from a crazy party, advice on a guy problem or just a good cry, I'm your girl.
How formula could increase breast-feeding rates
| One step in the right direction is more than thousand steps in the wrong direction. By: Mcdonald Masse |
One of the surprising ways to boost breast-feeding rates among new moms may involve formula, according to the latest research.
With a growing body of evidence supporting the benefits of breast-feeding for both mom and baby, public health experts celebrate each time a hospital receives "Baby-Friendly" status, which indicates the facility endorses steps that encourage breast-feeding such as not separating moms and babies after delivery and offering formula only if it's deemed medically necessary.
But a small study published in the journal Pediatrics suggests that giving newborns a little bit of formula actually helps boost breast-feeding rates. The formula primer may give moms the assurance they need to keep pursuing breast-feeding, say the study's authors.
Not surprisingly, many breast-feeding experts are taking issue with the findings, worried the results may undermine public health messages that breast milk alone is best for babies.
The study, from University of California, San Francisco (UCSF), followed 40 newborn babies who had lost at least 5% of their birth weight by the time they were 36 hours old. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) notes that weight loss in an infant's first days is typical as they become accustomed to feeding; average weight loss is about 7%.
But lead author Dr. Valerie Flaherman, an assistant professor of pediatrics and epidemiology and biostatistics at UCSF, focused on this group since other data suggests that infants who lose this much are more likely to lose more weight; when babies drop 10% of their birth weight, pediatricians become concerned that the infants may be at risk of other health problems.
For the trial, Flaherman and her colleagues assigned half the babies a couple days of birth to receive two teaspoons of formula after each breast-feeding, via a syringe so as not to encourage "nipple confusion" in which a baby has trouble transitioning between breast and bottle. Mothers were instructed to discontinue the formula supplementation once their milk supply appeared, which generally takes two to five days. The other half were exclusively breast-fed unless the doctor ordered formula.
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At one week of age, 10% of the formula group was still using formula in some way as part of their feeding strategy compared to 47% of the group originally assigned to breast-feed but who added formula. And at three months, 79% of the formula group was exclusively breast-feeding, significantly more than the 42% of moms in the group originally instructed to breast-feed.
Though it might seem counterintuitive, Flaherman suspects that introducing a small amount of formula early on, then withdrawing it, helped moms feel secure that their babies weren't hungry and losing weight in their first days of life. That likely gave them confidence to go on breast-feeding exclusively.
"Using that little bit of formula earlier really seems to have had a big effect on whether babies are getting formula at one week," she says. "We wanted to try to find an early intervention we could do with these babies and moms to help them continue breast-feeding. I was surprised the effect was this big."
In the U.S., most moms start off breast-feeding, but only 40% are still doing so at six months and just 20% make it to one year, which is the milestone that the AAP recommends at a minimum.
Not everyone is convinced that using formula in this way, however briefly, is going to increase that percentage.
"This study goes against everything that's been published for several years now from very reliable clinicians and researchers about the potential hazards of supplementing exclusively breast-feeding babies with formula," says Dr. Kathleen Marinelli, an associate professor of pediatrics at the University of Connecticut School of Medicine and the chair-elect of the U.S. Breastfeeding Committee.
"They're flying in the face of years of research here and doing so rather glibly, stating that this is the new way to look at things."
Tanya Lieberman, a lactation consultant who writes about scientific research for breast-feeding advocacy organization Best for Babes, says she's "a little confused" by the results. "We know what works to increase breast-feeding exclusivity and duration and we've known it for 20 years. That includes no supplementation unless medically necessary."
Lieberman says that the findings may have been affected by the attitude of the women themselves, who said they wanted to exclusively breast-feed but were also open to using formula. Mothers may also be under some misperceptions about how much milk newborns need. "Babies don't need large volumes of milk in the first few days," she says. "They are fine until their mother's milk comes in."
Flaherman says the study's results are not necessarily applicable to all babies. "This isn't something we think all people should do," she says. "It is just a potential tool for moms to consider using if they think it might be helpful."
She also says that the ultimate goal of the study was to find a way to help more mothers breast-feed, and to do so for as long as possible to help their babies. "It's kind of crazy that only 20% of people reach the recommended duration of breast-feeding," says Flaherman. "Different approaches to supporting breast-feeding may work better for different people." And for some mothers, that may even include a little bit of formula.
How to be a really good kisser
| There is somebody or something behind every piece of writing. By: Mcdonald Masse" |
Sensual, sexy lip-to-lip is a lost art for many of us who find ourselves face-to-face with a new amour. And I'd put money on it that jaded pros of French kissing could stand to refine their technique.
So let's get right down to the essentials of what will add a French flavor to your lips:
The Timing
The
best lovers of the world (who, by the way, are rarely French) are
masters of timing. They know how to milk the yearning by barely brushing
their lips against yours, and they know precisely when to go in,
full-throttled, for the kill. While sense of timing may be a genetically
inherited trait shared among musicians, comedians and successful
stockbrokers, one can learn the basics by paying close attention your
partner's breathing. If he is panting and breathless, experiment with
Exhibit A below.
Exhibit A(The Lusty French Kiss)
This
kiss needs no warm-up. You want your partner and your partner wants
you, as evidenced by your collective, animal-like panting. Your tongue
is already in his mouth before you realize that you're kissing. But now
what? Slowly -- and I mean slowly -- roll your tongue in circles around
your partner's. Thrust shallow, thrust deep. Then circle again. Tilt
your head to the other side, and repeat. Playfully bite his lower lip,
then lick his lips. Try different variations of the above. The
combinations are endless.
If your date has calm and predictable inhalations, give Exhibit B a shot.
Exhibit B (The Coy French Kiss)
This
kiss needs coaxing, as evident by your partner's mellow breathing.
Start with his lips. With the tip of your tongue lick his top lip, then
kiss him softly, no tongue. Next, taste his lower lip, then brush both
your lips back and forth, and up and down his. Gaze seductively into
your partner's eyes -- eye contact usually helps rev up the respiratory
system. Next, add a little panting and moaning to your efforts. Finally,
ease your tongue between his lips, slipping in and out. Continue in
this coy manner until you reach the point where the lusty French kiss
takes over (see above). Then alternate between the coy and lusty kisses.
You see, variety and surprise are what ultimately make a French kiss
more than just a kiss.
The Mechanics
The first
rule of French kissing is that every woman has her own style. This
style evolves out of a combination of your mouth's unique anatomy,
including the length of your tongue and how far your jaw will open, as
well as your level of sexual aggression and personal tastes. Regardless,
the mechanics are all the same: Tilt your head to one side, part your
lips, slip your tongue into your mate's parting lips, then explore
what's inside. Breathe through your nose (or your mouth if your nose is
stuffy). Once you've got the basic mechanics down, it's time to
experiment with technique.
8 signs that he's not over his ex
| two wrongs does,t make right By: Mcdonald Masse" |
Your new squeeze recently got out of a relationship. Here are eight signs your date is not over his ex.
He talks about his ex too much
Every
time you see him, he mentions his ex a handful of times. Whether he's
waxing poetic about the good times, bashing her character or just
dropping casual mentions like, "Oh, you like chai lattes, too? My ex
thought the ones at this coffee shop were pretty great. Tell me what you
think," too much ex talk can indicate that she's still on his mind --
all the time.
He never mentions his ex
To
totally deny that a once-important person in his life ever existed is
almost as large a red flag as would be constantly talking about her.
Maybe he feels guilty for thinking about her. Maybe he's trying to
forget. If someone is really over their ex, they should be able to talk
about the relationship when sharing their life story with you.
He's keeping tabs on his ex online
If
your date is still invested in what the ex is doing, he's not over her.
Related: Your new girlfriend is bummed that her ex is now in a
relationship even though she is, too.
There's too much contact with the ex
They
still call, text or email each other regularly, with your date seeming
more invested in an old relationship than the new one. If she's still
his emergency contact number, dog walker and snow-shoveler, neither is
ready to move on.
The mementos of their relationship are still on display|
When you visit your significant other's house, photos and trinkets from the last relationship are still in plain site -- and there are no real plans to return her stuff, either.
When it comes to your relationship, he's on-again, off-again
When someone isn't over a past relationship, it can be hard to commit to a new one.
He wasted no time jumping into a relationship with you Worse: Your relationship started before his last one officially ended.
Intuition. You just know
If
you're uncomfortable with the role the ex plays in your date's life,
there's likely a good reason. Ask him about it directly and communicate
that you're willing to back off and give him the space he needs before
he's ready to start dating someone new.
Resignation by cake: the sweetest way to say goodbye
| If we love only those who loves us then why should we recieve a blessing? By: Mcdonald Masse |
Chris Holmes, an immigration officer for Border Force at Stansted Airport, handed in his resignation yesterday on a cake, beautifully piped in neat black letters on a flawless page of white royal icing.
"The writing was quite fiddly," he says (he had practised on a sheet of paper). "I would have done it a bit neater if I'd known it was going to go viral."
Addressing his letter "To The Management", Holmes writes in upright and looping script:
"Having recently become a father I now realise how precious life is and how important it is to spend my time doing something that makes me, and other people, happy. For that reason, I hereby give notice of my resignation, in order that I may devote my time and energy to my family, and my cake business."
Holmes, 31, who lives in Sawston, Cambridgeshire, is otherwise known as Mr Cake, in the baking business that he has been building up in his spare time over the past two or three years. He arrived for his day job at Stansted on Monday with his large rectangular passion cake in a box - "a spiced carrot cake with pecans and sultanas and coconut" - and a resignation letter, and handed over both at once to the duty manager sitting on the podium behind the immigration desks.
The manager and his colleagues "were surprised and amazed", Holmes says. "But they took it very well. It was a huge cake. Ten by 12 inches, with about 18 eggs in it." He made it in two parts, splicing them together with orange icing. "The people who tasted it say it was very nice," said Toby Allanson, a spokesman for Border Force.
Holmes, who became a father five weeks ago when his son, Benjamin, was born, came up with the plan to bake a resignation cake six months ago, when his wife was still pregnant.
He told no one about his idea, but kept it in his head, quietly thinking it over, cooking it through, until it too had reached its full term. "Timing-wise, it's quite a risk [to launch a business] with the economy as it is at the moment. But I have looked at the books time and again and every way I look at it, it is viable as a sole employment." He chose a passion cake, he says, because "it was quite an appropriate choice, given I was following my passion.
If it all goes to plan, Ben is to thank for giving me that kick to get on and do something I have a passion for." He will be repaid with a wonderful first birthday cake, already in the planning.
Holmes's phone has been ringing and emails pinging all day, he says. But so far there have been no requests for resignation cakes. At his former employer's office, meanwhile, there is still some cake left. "He leaves with our very best wishes," says the assistant director of Border Force at Stansted.
Deleting your ex online after a breakup
A leader who treats his subjects well
will always be protected by them. By: Mcdonald Masse"When it comes to love in 2013, they say it's not official until it's "F.B.O. -- Facebook official," says TV host Chelsea Krost, 22. She knows that being "in a relationship" means pictures, videos, and personal status updates are all intertwined.
But when it goes wrong...
"That
can be the most heartbreaking thing," Krost says. "When you break up
with a boyfriend you go through the breakup all over again when you make
that 'unofficial' on Facebook, and it's horrible."
Any breakup can be painful. Reminders online can just make it worse. So you have broken up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, the best advice is to wait at least 24 hours before doing anything online, including on your Facebook page. The next step? Well, that depends on if it was a mutually agreed-upon breakup or a nasty split.
"You don't want people to see the yo-yo of your relationship," says Laurie Davis, the author of "Love at First Click."
She says that if it ends well, "the first thing you should do is deal with your status. Remove it. The second thing you should do after a little bit of time is un-tag yourself from photos."
Davis says block your ex, change any shared passwords, and remove the person from any news feeds.
"It can be painful to see them and the moments of their life popping up in your screen all the time," she says.
But what if the relationship ends poorly?
"When
you close that door, it means closing that digital door and not letting
them think there's a chance it will be open again," says Dr. Jeff
Gardere, a clinical psychologist.
Deleting everything takes time. Several online applications, such as Killswitch, offer to help. Dr. Gardere also developed the Healthy Divorce app.
"It's over emotionally, it's over physically, and it needs to be over digitally, you just need to move on," he says.
Krost says you should pick and choose what you want to put on Facebook, "because you never know what's going to happen in the long run, and don't make it so hard on yourself to delete 10 million pictures."
That is why she says she isn't rushing to make anything digitally official until it's truly official.
"Unless you're getting married, unless he's putting a ring on it, I don't think there's a need to put your Facebook status 'in a relationship with' whoever," Krost says.
4 things you do that kill her sex drive
Death is a negation of life but not an aspect of it".By Mcdonald MasseThere's a reason why you and your wife of 20 years don't ravage each other anymore, and it isn't for your lack of trying. According to a new study in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, women in a committed relationship report lower levels of sexual desire over timea .02 percent decrease every monthwhile a guy's desire stays the same. (Yet another reason to start with a lusty woman to begin with!)
'Some research suggests that somewhere between 6 and 30 months, relationships switch from passionate to compassionatemore affectionate than ripping each other's clothes off,' says lead study author Robin Milhausen, Ph.D., a sex researcher at the University of Guelph in Ontario.
So are you to blame for her lack of lust? Not necessarily, Milhausen says. 'For women with a lower sex drive in the first place, the switch to a deeper emotional bond may reduce some of the excitement associated with sex in new relationships.'
Still, you're not exactly helping matters. We asked several sex experts to shed light on the worst things you do around the house and in the sack that turn her off. Vow to never commit the following mood-killers againtry to Banish These Bad Habits, tooand your sex life will suffer no more.
Ignoring Her Appearance
'Guys
in long-term relationships tend to stop noticing when their partner
looks pretty, and so much of female sexual desire is tied to a sense of
self-esteem,' says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., sex counselor and author of She
Comes First. The fix here is simple: Pay her a few simple compliments
every day, like letting her know she's sexy, Kerner says.
Putting Her Under Pressure
Don't
worry or question her about getting orgasms, says Marnia Robinson,
author of Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. Stay relaxed and focused on playful
touching, she advises. 'This means no performance pressure on either of
you. Let whatever happens happen in its own timeor not. Good sex is
about connection and sensual satisfaction, not number of orgasms
produced.' And here's a nice added benefit to staying calm: 'The
relaxation is good for erections,' says Robinson.
Using Porn As a Benchmark
It's
good to keep the sex hotbut it's more important to keep it real. In
other words, forget that cool move you caught on XTube. 'Just because
you saw a sexual practice in a film doesn't mean it's safe or
satisfying,' says Robinson. And it might not even be something she's
into. 'If you need extreme stimulation to perform with a partner, you
may want to cut back on overstimulation. A desensitized brain can also
find sex less arousing. As you restore your brain to normal sensitivity,
regular sex behaviors become enjoyable again.' Time to rediscover the
wonders of the missionary position. (Need more help finding great moves?
Use our handy Sex Position Master.)
Leaving Her Lips Hanging
As
men get comfortable in a relationship, their approach to foreplay tends
to focus on the moments leading up to sex, says Kerner. 'But female
desire doesn't operate like a light switch that turns on and offit's
more like a dimmer,' he says. Small acts of intimacy like hugging and
kissing can get her in the mood. But don't get antsy: 'Don't expect her
to be immediately turned on,' Kerner says.
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