Your new squeeze recently got out of a relationship. Here are eight signs your date is not over his ex.
He talks about his ex too much
Every
time you see him, he mentions his ex a handful of times. Whether he's
waxing poetic about the good times, bashing her character or just
dropping casual mentions like, "Oh, you like chai lattes, too? My ex
thought the ones at this coffee shop were pretty great. Tell me what you
think," too much ex talk can indicate that she's still on his mind --
all the time.
He never mentions his ex
To
totally deny that a once-important person in his life ever existed is
almost as large a red flag as would be constantly talking about her.
Maybe he feels guilty for thinking about her. Maybe he's trying to
forget. If someone is really over their ex, they should be able to talk
about the relationship when sharing their life story with you.
He's keeping tabs on his ex online
If
your date is still invested in what the ex is doing, he's not over her.
Related: Your new girlfriend is bummed that her ex is now in a
relationship even though she is, too.
There's too much contact with the ex
They
still call, text or email each other regularly, with your date seeming
more invested in an old relationship than the new one. If she's still
his emergency contact number, dog walker and snow-shoveler, neither is
ready to move on.
The mementos of their relationship are still on display|
When
you visit your significant other's house, photos and trinkets from the
last relationship are still in plain site -- and there are no real plans
to return her stuff, either.
When it comes to your relationship, he's on-again, off-again
When someone isn't over a past relationship, it can be hard to commit to a new one.
He wasted no time jumping into a relationship with you Worse: Your relationship started before his last one officially ended.
Intuition. You just know
If
you're uncomfortable with the role the ex plays in your date's life,
there's likely a good reason. Ask him about it directly and communicate
that you're willing to back off and give him the space he needs before
he's ready to start dating someone new.
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